have u ever thought if ur bf is cheating on u?hahaha.. perhaps everyone is cheating, it's just how n where differs it. if u are on a diet but u ate junk foods, u r definitely cheating your diet plan, if u are training for a marathon but u skip one training day, u r definitely cheating on ur effort. if u work hard to be a medical student but u hung over and let the days passed meaninglessly, u r cheating on ur future!!.. so in every aspect in life, ppl tend to cheat not only on others but also on themselves... ironic isn't it?haha...
back to the main issue... bout cheating bfs.. urm,..how do u know he's not cheating? i presume, the main keys to success and everlasting long distance relationship are:
--->trust each other
--->avoid fussing about small things
--->understanding both side's priority (career, routine, hobbies, etc)
--->forgive small mistakes
--->learn to give and take
--->be more considerate
--->get to know more bout your spouse
--->don't always depend on instinct (it could be wrong esp wen influence by ur mood)
--->try to join in activities
--->get rid of ur ego
--->grow up!be more matured!n independent dude!!!!
this is based on my life, my love, my time and sharing of the dreadful and at times joyful long distance relationship..... :)
There are times in our life where v feel like its useless. Doing anything will only make things worst. When u would just wanna lay back on your bed, emptying your thoughts and letting it linger. The truth is you just wanna run away from everything, cause u think its worthless. Putting all those effort, knowing that it'll only end up bad. No matter what u do, no matter how different u wanna change things, no matter where or how or who u do it with, it doesn't matter... Cause with u, everything is a mess. I've been spending the past week watching Monk, PSych, Charmed and Grey's anatomy.. it was not gonna stop,..the marathon. unless i pull myself together and start studying which in my case is something hard to do.. I've been a bummer.. nodding on my fates of losing, crash and burn with my feelings. I thought of just going home to my family, being with them makes this much easier. Surely I have to endure my dad's nags and my mom's attitude but still all that comparing to my life right now,.. will be the one thing that I really wanna face. And now i'm putting up words to make sentences in my blog.. when i should be studying for my clinical reasoning and minor surgery... well,..dont be astonished by it yet.. it's really un'cool'.. ciao..
Love is a passionate feeling that people feels for each other.. it can be between anyone in d world.. frens, lovers, families.. but wen it comes to a relationship, love affair, etc.. watever u wanna call it,.. v tend to get nervous wen we have to choose,.. take a fren of mine for instance,.. she is happily dating to a 31 yo guy,.. yet,..she still contacts her ex... a 26 yo cute guy,..ahakss.. and in her spare time,..she still talks n flirts to others.. occassionally,..it shud b ok.. but wat will happen wen one of them ask for her hand in marriage? c, wen v started the whole 'couple' thing,.. v never actually tot tht v'll end up being together forever for d rest of our lives.. v may thought tht it was just for fun and,..if the relationship turns out well and gives you 8 out of 10 good points out of it,.. u'd surely continue the relation.. but if its not,..u'll still think wats d best for u... put away the interest of ur couple.. hahahha.. well,.. it may sound selfish.. but to stay happy.. thts wat people always do.. so there's nothing wrong about tht.. and always remember tht if anyone should sacrifice in the relationship,..its NEVER you..
people always correlates love and sacrifices.. thts BULLSHIT!! everyone should have their goals in life and prioritize them,.. never take any of them for granted for anything else.. ESP a relationship... cos once u made a bad choice and u thought back... what if... u had let him go and go on with ur dreams... u will surely regret all d sacrifices u made..(kuang'kuang'kuang')
so i was browsing on this fine day,..and guess wat i ran into?gegeggege...
an article similar to this... “Is this man or woman worth my time? Are we going tomake each other better for being with each other, or doeshe or she make me feel something I have never felt before?”If it’s not the exact internal questions, they certainly are notfar off. If our intentions are truly built on a “good heartedfoundation” then not hiding the truth about ourselves whenmeeting others is a simple task. We can love who we areinside and then proceed to market that love so someoneelse can enjoy it.However, we hide and not reveal what we know are ournegatives without working internally on them beforeproceeding into another relationship, where we can injectthem all over again. If we ironed out our problems beforedelving full fledged into another committed relationship,then we wouldn’t have to “put our best foot forwardbecause we would have both feet already firmly on theground.” It all starts with you and taking personal accountability foryour own heart and what you truly seek in a perspectivemate. False impressions of all positives about yourself put adishonest spin into a relationship from the get go and pointit for a tenuous at best, future. When you get to know yourself inside and out and whatyou truly want from a relationship is when you will know ifa relationship has a future or not.Work on eliminating your negative personality traits beforeever pursuing a committed relationship. Then attempt toefficiently read your perspective mate's honest intentionsbefore you invest too much time. If done correctly, youwill have increased your odds exponentially for a long termrelationship and stacked them confidently in your favor.
as times goes by, we looked back at the things that we regret, things tht we missed, things that we wish are still with us.. it was a clear day wen i sat on my bed, next to the window,.. looking at the sky, thinking of my mistakes and my achievements... throughout the past 23 years.. and i'm glad i have you... i thought of my exes.. and the mistakes tht i done ,..wat chase them away,.. then i thought of d way i treat you.. maybe i'm taking it for granted,.. cos u r always there for me... i never imagine a day without you.but yesterday, today n the days ahead of us.. i know u'll b busy for me.. the transmission is very hard for me. i cant imagine a day without ur sms, without a call, owh..shit.. i'm gonna b so lonely.. but i have faith in u and me.. n i want u to succeed in everything tht u do..even if u have to leave me, or put me aside... i'll still b here waiting for u.. listening to u.. and loving u..
after awhile... i stare at my door,.. sometimes i wish tht u wud surprise me.. u'll knock on my door.. quietly u jump on me n u'd c my tears flow... happily in the warmth of ur body,.. u hugging me.. baby.. u can b VERY predictable but sumtimes.. it wont kill to have me jumping around in joy.. too much too ask i presume.. u re being so nice, comforting me even with listening.. i really do love u..
